Twelve relationship rules you should definitely ignore

1. “Your partner should be your best friend.” Your partner does not have to be your best friend. Your FRIENDS should be your friends. Your partner should have sex with you in bed (or elsewhere) and go to the hospital with you when your sister gives birth. If he doesn’t also braid your hair while you watch Frozen and enthuse over the dawning of rosé-drinking season, that doesn’t mean your love isn’t true and deep.

2. “You have to be each other’s plus-one at every celebration or family event.” If his friends are throwing a party, and you don’t know them that well and are coming down with the flu, stay home! He can function on his own. Send a nice note and a gift, and curl up with Sex and the City reruns, and don’t worry about it.

3. “Learn to enjoy doing things your partner loves.” You don’t have to love the same things. If he loves golf and you do not, you do not have to watch golf with him. Just like you’d rather go to the Beyoncé concert with someone who isn’t rolling his eyes in the corner, he’d rather watch golf with a fellow enthusiast.

4. “Never go to bed angry.” Sometimes you need to sleep on it so you wake up and realize how silly you were both acting last night when you had a huge fight over who got all those crumbs in the couch crevices.

5. “Split chores evenly.” If he does 90 percent of the laundry and that works for your lifestyle, GREAT! The balance of who does more housework will ebb and flow over the course of the relationship, and as long as you’re not stuck doing all of it, that’s just fine.

6. “Set aside one night a week for date night.” It’s hard to keep to a set day each week. Make sure you have alone time that doesn’t just consist of him sitting next to you while you watch Scandal each week, but don’t freak out if suddenly he can’t take you out on Friday.

7. “Don’t keep secrets from each other.” There are some things he doesn’t need to know. Like if your mom said she can’t believe he wore those shoes? Telling him will just hurt his feelings and potentially cause a big fight.

8. ”If you break up and get back together, it will never work.” Sometimes breakups make you realize how much you love a person and don’t want to be without him. Knowing how to forgive each other will only make your relationship stronger.

9. "Pick your battles." If something’s bothering you, say something. A lot of people tend to under-communicate in a relationship, which can lead to passive aggression.

10. “You shouldn’t have to ask someone to make time for you.” Sometimes you need to tell someone what you need. And if you need more time together, there’s nothing wrong with asking your partner for it.

11. ”Don’t listen to your friends.” If ALL of your friends have the same gripe about someone you’re with, maybe you should listen to them.

12. “Don’t talk about your ex.” While you shouldn’t go on and on about your past relationship, it’s fine for your current guy to know what your ex did that drove you crazy. Besides, people kind of like hearing about how much better they are than the last person their partner dated.


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You are not supposed to make my life miserable

Are you not getting tired of constantly hurting my feelings? Or are you not just aware of how awful you hurt me? I am way too tired hearing your hurtful words and I am seriously sick of all of your actions. How the hell could you turn my bright and happy day into a gloomy one? From spending all day laughing to crying like hell for how many freakin’ hours at night. Like really, what kind of demon are you? How I wish I could just easily shut you out from my life.

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I hate how I am slowly turning into the kind of person I said I would never ever be. I just woke up realizing that I am on my way to becoming the person I said I hated. And it sucks to find myself enjoying.

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I am really grateful to keep this blog for years because if not I could’ve forgotten forever that I had the position of peace officer way back in high school. And how I really did enjoy it. It was really a good decision not to deactivate this blog. 

But I have this attitude of hating to read old posts of mine maybe because I feel really ashamed of myself after reading. So, instead of leaving this account and creating a new one, I ended up deleting more than half of my posts here. Especially those three years ago posts. From 197 pages this blog is down to having 84 pages! 

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1. If you let yourself think of someone too much, you would think that you need that person in your life. But the truth is you don’t. You just programmed your mind that you do.

2. You can miss someone too much to the point that everything that you would ever see will be associated to that person. It will mentally destroy you. You would feel like you are drowning and that person is your oxygen. If someone makes you feel like this, try to breathe fresh air. Learn how to inhale yourself first so you won’t be breathless when they leave.

3.You can never own a person. Someone can never be yours even if they told you that they are. People are not properties to be owned. They could walk away from your life any time they want and you could not blame them by doing so You can stay all you want and you can not hate them for the pain.

4. When you feel like you are being taken for granted, you have the right to walk away. There is no use in letting yourself be with someone who treats you like a trash when you are a precious gem who deserves to be valued.

5. When someone tells you he would stay, don’t believe them. Remember, they are capable of walking away any time they want to. Remember, everybody leaves. You can not tie themselves to you so they won’t get away. They will always find a way out.

6. You can not continue fighting for someone who has long given up on you. Love is a two-player game. It would not work out if you are the only one who’s holding the controller. You are worth fighting for. Always remember that.

7. Even if someone broke your heart, it could not shatter to the point that it would lose its capability of loving someone again.

8. Love can never be enough. Someone can say those three words to you alongside with goodbye.

9. When it is all over, you should not invalidate the love that you once shared just so you could move on. It was there, it just wasn’t meant to last and you have to accept that.

n.a., nine things i learned from my previous heartbreak  (via themostawesomebitch)

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